On Letting Go of Negative Energy


I am a firm believer that everything is about your perception. Whether you believe a situation is positive or negative is simply a matter of discernment. At the level of energy, that situation is cut from the same cloth as any other situation. The energy itself is neither positive nor negative; it simply just is… That being said, I will only label the energy I’m about to speak of as negative for the purposes of this article. I was dealing with an energy that made me feel heavy, angry and judgmental. In my humble opinion, these are negative things.

It all started with a misunderstanding. Isn’t that always the way of it? A misunderstanding that gets blown way out of proportion and before you know it, your friend becomes your enemy. Now, we all have our own unique perspectives on life and we all have the power to interpret another’s actions however we see fit, no matter how inaccurate our interpretation may be. Unfortunately, not everyone has discovered the capacity to empathize. I’ve learned that trying to walk a mile in another person’s shoes is not only impossible, but extremely counterproductive. No amount of explaining will ever put you behind the eyes of the seer. Any explanation from the perceived perpetrator will only be subject to your judgment, scrutiny and egoic principles. So, how can we ever really reconcile our differences with others?

I believe the ultimate goal is not to understand why people do what they do, but to understand why we react the way we do to the actions of others. What is it about our own psyches that pushes us so fervently into the quest of understanding another? Is it because we are all under the impression that we already understand ourselves so we may therefore judge someone else? I highly doubt it. Most of us still wander about the world doing the same aimless dance, mimicking the endeavors of our heroes, manufacturing synthetic wealth and dismissing any and all who dare question our path. We do not welcome the judgment of others, but are so eager to judge in return. Where does the cycle begin; where does it end?

I’d been stuck in a cycle of judgment over this particular situation for a few months. I had analyzed my own actions and reactions, dissected myself and came to the conclusion that I was wrong, but I wasn’t any more wrong than the other person involved. In my eyes we were equally wrong and as time passed and my animosity grew, the blame shifted more and more onto the other person. Why couldn’t they understand that they were wrong also? Why didn’t they apologize for their part in it?

Normally, I am the first person to apologize. I’ve found that the simple act of offering an apology for your part in the negativity opens up a lane for conversation and eventually a sort of mutual understanding (if there is such a thing). But for this situation I simply could not bring myself to do it. My ego was so encumbering that I allowed myself to suffer and stew in my negative juices, silently waiting for an apology that never came. It was the simple judgment and reaction to someone else’s ego that consequently forced my ego to grow to gigantic proportions. Essentially, I became the very thing I was judging another for. Isn’t that a trip?

I’ve read that everyone in this world is quite simply a reflection of yourself. That which you judge in others is ultimately your own character flaw. I never really believed this until today, or perhaps, I just never really understood what it meant. We are all cut from the same divine cloth. Understanding and empathy is possible once judgment is acknowledged as the facade that it is. The fact is, there is no way to judge energy. If we are all cosmic consciousness expressing itself in every way possible, how could any action be wrong? In the grand scheme of things, we must understand that there can be no light without darkness; no joy without pain; no sunshine without rain. This is what we call Karma. What goes around comes around. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Whether scientific or spiritual, everything maintains a balance.

I realize this may be a hard concept for many to grasp, especially once you start to uncover all the lies in our world and the selfish agendas behind them. But I challenge you to step out of your current box and into a bigger one, then step out of that bigger one and into an even bigger one. If you continue to do this, eventually you will end up seeing the bigger picture. You will end up on the outside looking in. This is where I want to be. This is where I want everyone to be.

So today I decided to let go of all the negative energy I’d been harboring over this silly little misunderstanding. I didn’t apologize and I expect no apology in return. To be honest, I don’t expect anything in return. Expectations are the root of all our sorrows. When we learn to simply go with the flow and accept life as it comes at us, we begin our journey on a path toward liberation. Life is an experience… The good, the bad and the ugly. Don’t you want to see all that it has to offer?

I read something that made me think of my former friend and I decided to send it to them. Upon pushing the send button, I felt a strange feeling come over me. I took a deep breath and instantly felt lighter. An overwhelming sensation of positivity tingled across my skin. The air around me felt less dense. It literally felt like energy was circulating through my body, as if I’d replaced one type for another. In that moment, I was free.

It seems a preposterous concept to love your enemy, but if you have the opportunity to transcend your ego, even if it’s just for a second, you’d realize that it isn’t as crazy a thought as it may seem.

My message to my former friend:

I wish you enough sun

to keep your attitude bright

no matter how gray the day may appear.

I wish you enough rain

to appreciate the sun even more.

I wish you enough happiness

to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.

I wish you enough pain

so that even the smallest of joys in life

may appear bigger.

I wish you enough gain

to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss

to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish you enough hellos

to get you through the final good-bye.

I wish you enough…

Often times we find ourselves holding onto good feelings for fear that they won’t ever be experienced again, or dwelling on bad feelings hoping to magically manifest relief. This is all energy. It is neither created nor destroyed. Experience it, appreciate it, then let it go… All you ever have is this moment; the eternal now. Free your mind, open your heart and flow.